As your doula, my position is simple: to help ensure that your birth plan is acknowledged and followed as much as possible. When in labor, things get intense and events can unfold rapidly. If a birth plan is in place, I can remind you, your partner and hospital staff about important items that can easily be forgotten in the rush of the moment. As your doula, I may suggest alternatives for you and your partner to consider, but I do not make decisions for you. I was once told "You are assisting at someone else's birth. Do good without show or fuss. Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must take the lead, Lead so the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge.