When your partner’s confidence is high and they are participating at their own comfort level having a doula present can actually bring the two of you closer together. Some partners may not wish to play an active role in, or be responsible for, your comfort and emotional security throughout the entire labor, preferring to witness the actual birth when it’s time. Your doula can fill in and allow the partner to participate as he wishes, without leaving your needs unmet. On the other hand, if your partner will be your major source of emotional support, your doula can supplement the partner’s efforts by getting cool and warm washcloths, making suggestions for comfort measures, and offering words of reassurance. During a long, tiring labor, she can give the partner a break or change of scenery. The combined contributions of partner and doula, along with a competent, considerate and caring staff, give you the best chance of an optimal outcome.

I had a husband express to me, "I was relieved when you arrived and I could watch how cared for my wife. (wiping her brow, feeding her ice chips and massaging her back.) It made me want to jump in and help her myself. Margaret modeles wonderful care, I just mimicked what she did.